For the Girls: 7 Things To Remember When You Start A New Relationship

7 Things to Remember When You Start a New
Relationship
It feels so exciting when you fall in love and
start a
new relationship! New relationships are about
hope,
some expectations and fresh feelings. But
sometimes
a new relationship collapses when they hardly
starts.
I've been thinking about all my relationships,
both
successful and not so successful, and I've come
to
the conclusion that a good start determines the
further outcome of your relationship. When you
just
start dating someone it's very easy to make
mistakes
and scary the person away. Sure, every
relationship
is highly individual and unique, but here some
universal tips to remember when you start a new
relationship.

1. Don't pursue your boyfriend

I always found it difficult. When I fall in love
with
someone I want to spend every second with this
person to get to know him better. I become
literally
obsessed with the guy and it's often the main
cause
of all my unsuccessful relationships. Such an
excessive attention is the sure way to frighten
the
person off. Try to avoid calling him every hour
or
typing romantic messages if you've just started
dating. Guys love when a girl can take the first
step,
but they cannot stand when the girl is
persistent or
even annoying. On the other hand, try not to
hold
him back. Avoid these two extremes and find
the
golden mean in your communication.

2. Don't pretend to be someone else

When you like someone it's natural that you want
reciprocity. You want to gain the person's
approval
and try hard to correspond to his expectations
and
preferences. However, you cannot make a
different
version of yourself. Sooner or later you'll get
tired to
play this game and when he gets to know your
true
self, it'll break your partner's heart. When you
pretend to be someone else, your guy cannot
appreciate your real personality. If you know
that
your guy loves blue-eyed blondes, but you have
beautiful brown tresses, you shouldn't even
think to
dye your hair color! Try to be honest and open
from
the very beginning.

3. Your new boyfriend isn't your previous one

Never ever try to compare your current
boyfriend
with your previous ones. Moreover, you should
never
discuss your previous relationships with your
guy. It's
the easiest way to make him suspicious and
jealous
about all your male friends, which will surely
lead to
a breakdown. This rule works both ways. While
you
should keep silent about your previous guys, try
not
to ask him about his girlfriends as well. You
don't
really need to know the person's past to get to
know
him better. While dating him you'll have plenty
of
opportunities to see everything with your own
eyes.
Read also – 7 Things You Should Learn from
Your
Failed Relationship

4. Avoid being too fast

You've just started dating, but you're already
imagining your wedding and a happy family with
3
kids and a dog. Wait for a second, aren't you too
fast?
Don't cherish illusions as for your common
future;
everything is very uncertain at the beginning of
your
relationship and you still need a lot of time to
explore
each other. If you hint that you have some plans
as
for your future, be sure your relationship won't
go
too far. I've noticed that most of my successful
relationships occurred when I thought I had no
chances with the guy. Remember that your
relationship should develop its natural way. Your
boyfriend shouldn't tell you 'I love you' on the
third
date.

5. Don't be the center of attention

When you want to impress your new boyfriend,
you
can go too far boasting about your personality,
interests, hobbies or whatever else. However,
you
can get too tiresome and boring. Instead, try to
talk
about his personality. Take an interest in his
work,
hobbies, family and past. When he's talking
about
something, be a careful and active listener. Guys
will
never tell you that, but they like to be
complimented!
Compliments will raise his self-esteem and
dignity.
Say some kind words about his achievements or
personal qualities.

6. Don't gather information

If you have common friends, don't try to
question
them about your boyfriend. This is of crucial
importance when it comes to his previous girls
and
relationships. If your guy finds out that (be
sure he'll
find out), you will have a great difficulty trying
to
explain the situation to him. You shouldn't rely
on his
social accounts either. What the person
pretends to
be online and what the person actually is are two
totally different things. The best way to
understand
your partner is communication and spending time
together.

7. Don't be a perfectionist

Many relationships fail simply because you
expect too much from the person. Several years ago I
composed the list of features I expected from
my potential boyfriend. There were nearly fifteen
traits of character, if I'm not mistaken. No wonder all my
relationships collapsed very soon since I was
too high-maintenance and any man could hardly
satisfy my needs. However, I've realized that I'm not
ideal either, so it's rather dishonest to expect
perfection from someone else. Both of you are human
beings and it's natural that you have some shortcomings
and imperfections.


A new relationship always gives you a chance to
start everything anew. Even though the outcome of
your relationship depends on many factors, you can
still do a lot to make a good start. Follow the
aforementioned tips if you want to start a
successful relationship and get married. What are some
lessons you've learned from your past relationships?

Posted by Ogwuche Abel on Wednesday, December 10, 2014 - Rating: 4.5

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